In our upbringings, it is usual for many of us to learn that relationships are something in life that occur after marriage and are influenced by cultural and family norms. For me, being from a -middle-class background, my parents always encouraged me to pursue my dreams and live up to what they expected of me. The plan was straightforward: allow them to choose the individual I was going to spend the rest of my life with and meanwhile concentrate on my future.

But life has a way of throwing things at us and bringing people into our lives that test our beliefs. Though my background was strong on family values, I came to understand that relationships aren't always as black and white as they appear. It's simple to get caught up in the notion of "the one" or the pressure of living up to societal expectations, particularly when you're confronted with circumstances that challenge your values.

Something I've learned from experience is that relationships are an emotional rollercoaster, particularly when trust comes into play. It's easy to trust the wrong people, to take their word for it, and to hope for the best. But trust is delicate, and once lost, can cause irreparable harm. In my own experience, I've had instances where I trusted the wrong men, only to end up hurt and wondering how I could have been so foolish.

But here's the reality: no matter how well-meaning or good-hearted you are, putting your trust in the wrong person can turn everything around. The wrong relationships can suck the life out of you, mess up your sense of self, and even cause you to lose your way. It's a bitter but hard-learned lesson. From all these experiences, I've come to realize that it's okay to be slow in getting into a relationship. Patience is the key.

Don't hurry the process of finding someone to spend your life with. Instead, work on becoming yourself. Give yourself time to grow, to become who you are meant to be. Create a life that you're proud of and that makes you strong—one that doesn't require someone else's validation to be complete. When the right one does enter your life, he or she should enhance your strength, not erode it. Relationships are partnerships, not dependencies.

And girls, remember you are special. Your worth is not measured by someone else's acceptance or by temporary associations. The one who is meant to be will fall for you in due time, and it will come without pressure or rush. Be you until then, and make the world judge you in your own time.

Our mothers and fathers are observing, and they're proud of the courage we bear in ourselves. As we grow up, mature, and pursue our passions, we're making them proud day by day.

So, continue on, girls. Your path to self-discovery is well worth each minute. Stay strong, believe in yourself, and the right relationship will arrive when you least expect it.